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I am writing this post for the benefit of my clients, however, others may find this information useful. Please read the disclaimer at the bottom of the article when you have the chance.*  This is geared toward clients who might be willing to stick with the work over time – I personally recommend doing a series of sessions – whether four, seven or ten or more.  Simply coming in for one session, while potent and beneficial, may not allow for the necessary unwinding and re-organization which the body is requesting.  As a reference to my personal experience, I am including the following paragraph.  If you do not need to read about why I feel I have the experience to write this, then happily skip it. 

I have been doing Reiki Energetic Healing, Working with the Craniosacral System and practicing other modalities which I have been certified in, for more than six years.  I also have training and experience in working with Western and Spiritual (Humanistic) Astrology, having done more than 200 charts professionally.  My teachers include qualified, academically trained professors, process-oriented bodyworkers who have connections to Indigenous healing wisdom along with empirically-based graduate degrees, astrologers with more than 20 years of experience under their belts and numerous Tibetan lamas – recognized, realized heart teachers with lifetimes of living the healing wisdom of the Buddha-Dharma.  I have done a few Buddhist retreats, cultivating greater loving-kindness and compassion which is offered in my private practice.  In addition to the above experience and training, I have been on the receiving end of process-oriented bodywork since 2004, having cultivated and maintained quality self care since that time.  And of course, I am just an ordinary human being, doing the best I can with the resources I have available.

I plan to update this material and refine it, but at present, this is a quality, if a little rough-around-the-edges, description of a general trend I have been observing in my clients’ processes (over time).  Quality bodywork of any sort takes time to cultivate true, lasting healing (the trust required to go into the vulnerable, sticky-icky places where we need to do our deepest work takes time).  For most individuals, I believe the body/mind system knows what it needs to heal properly and appropriately – which is one of the reasons I resonate with Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy.  Biodynamic work is very gentle and patient – when the system is ready to reveal its healing plan, then the practitioner follows it.  Not a moment earlier.  There is nothing for the practitioner to do, nothing to fix and nothing to diagnose (without the client’s system giving its input first, and even then, the practitioner is always listening, going slow and doing less rather than more).  As a result of the body knowing what it needs and when, we cannot push this process.  That would not be kind and I believe it could result in shutting down the budding trust.

The body also knows at what pace to journey down its healing path, to create and nurture lasting healing – not temporary shifts which fall back into old patterns over time.  One of the many respected teachers in the Craniosacral field is Hugh Milne, also an Osteopath, he says in his book, The Heart of Listening, “that we can never go too deep, just too fast.”  I am a follower and proponent of this advice.  As a result, in sessions, no matter what is ailing the client, I work from the feet up – grounding their system and developing the feelings of comfort and trust that are necessary for them to let go of old stuff.

The body generally wants to work on the gross (largest, most pressing) issues first.  Whether structural (from an accident, injury or birth trauma), emotional (e.g. grief, anger, jealousy, etc) or energetic in nature, the body / mind system wants to move toward the fullest expression of its highest potential.  I believe that this desire is true for all of us – to actualize our highest potential and that this is the body’s deepest intention.  If the body needs to let go of something, or shift an old pattern which no longer serves this goal, then it knows what it needs to do.  In the beginning of any session, I ask the client to state an intention for that particular session – which can be anything from, “I want to be more calm and centered,” to “I’m ready to move out of my depression and towards healthy interaction with others” (and anything in between).  [I just want to state for the record that I do not treat depression.  I am using that example as one of the more ambitious intentions that someone could set.]  I believe that energy follows intention and attention.  This is what my teachers have preached; see Julie Henderson’s book on energetic health, The Lover Within. Therefore, the client determines the frame or intention for their particular session.  This is normally in alignment with what the body is looking to accomplish – or to add to this – the body does what it needs to, in order to move toward that intention, along with moving toward its overarching intention of self-actualizing.

Once the grosser issues have been worked through, which could take anywhere from one to twenty sessions – it depends entirely on the client (how much work have they done with other practitioners previously, do they maintain a healthy lifestyle, are they disciplined about doing the homework which healing-facilitators recommend, are they ready to shine some light into the darker recesses of the heart, etc).  On average, I would say it takes about four to ten sessions to re-pattern the old conditioning which led to our being out of alignment (on the gross, easily discernible levels).

Keep in mind that the body will always reveal more healing potentials if we have the capacity.  What this means is that as we make more space and clear the grosser issues, subtler issues can arise which we did not realize were present previously.  This is because our awareness is becoming sharper and more sensitized (healthier), and we are becoming better able to listen to what our body needs.  This is not always the case, but if someone has a history of trauma or abuse (and according to Thomas Merton, a Western monk and mystic, the fast-paced lifestyles that we live here in the West are more than just stressful, but that they are often violent, and certainly not kind – so it might figure that we all have many layers to work through), then it makes sense that we have a number of layers to process.  Until we come into easy, sustainable alignment and equanimity, there will be more to work on.  However, once we start to make some headway on our healing journey, bringing the light of awareness and wholesome persistence, then we start to feel more joy and gratitude with every moment we are blessed with.  As clients (one in particular said this) who have been with me for multiple sessions have said, “Kirby, I would have never known this was possible.  My life is full of sparkly joy now.  Finding the words for it is difficult, but I am happier and more at peace.” I know this sounds a bit corny, but it is what she was feeling, and what I had been noticing as she shifted.

In a future post, I will include an example of what I am referring to in the above paragraph – about the body / mind letting go of old stuff and then discovering new stuff to work on; information on the healing process.  However, I believe that the healing journey can be a lot of work, but it is worth it.  [See foot note below.]  Joy, clarity and lasting lightness of being are possible.  I believe the relationship is reciprocal – we get as much out of the process as we are willing to put into it – in other words, if we are willing to go to some uncomfortable places and do the work, then it will be worth it on the other side.  Sometimes we have to feel it to heal it.  Then we can celebrate our journey.  And with that I bid you a happy Spring!

[Foot note – there are a number of modalities which promise instant results, or immediate healing.  If I hear this, what comes to mind?  Here are my thoughts – do the results, the claimed healing, truly stick?  I believe this is possible but it really depends on the practitioner.  Miracles do happen.  But I would recommend looking at the people who say that they will give you lasting, easy healing, the practitioners themselves – are they balanced?  are they truly, unconditionally happy?  are they living in alignment within their communities and with the Earth?  do they seem to be very wealthy (if they are flaunting it, then this is not a good sign)  There are modalities which claim to go into our belief structures and re-organize them quickly.  Again, I am a little suspicious when I hear this.  What makes process-oriented bodywork so potent, is that through the bodywork aspect (hands on), you can create lasting shifts at the cellular level over time.  But again, the practitioner is not the one doing the work.  The client is the one doing the re-organizing.  The practitioner merely holds space, listens and provides containment for the process.  Rarely and only if appropriate does the practitioner throw in a little coaching.  I’m not trying to knock any type of healing modality, but I have seen people spend a lot of money on modalities which I believe provide very little in the lasting results department.  To wrap this up, have a healthy skepticism toward healing that sounds too good to be true.  Do a little research and analyze the practitioners – are they walking their talk?]

* Disclaimer: I have been trained and certified in working with the Biodynamic Craniosacral system (CST) along with Reiki Energetic Healing, and as a result, I do not treat, cure, prevent or diagnose any disease.  Craniosacral Therapy has had some success with a few, limited bodily issues, but I do not make such a claim. I recently completed undergraduate work with a bachelors of science in psychology.

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This post is about professional soccer and the possible reflected angst on the field, shown in the astrological heavens.  I watched this game on February 6th, meaning these words are all applicable to that time period.

I played soccer for 18 years and then, when injuries continued to set me back, I stopped playing and coached for several more.  Therefore, I am drawn to watch quality soccer and in particular, the English Premier League.  My favorite teams are Liverpool and Everton (due to certain English and American players whom I tend to favor).  Recently, both of these teams played each other, and in watching the highlights, I was shocked at how rough the game was – much more so than a “normal” heated rivalry game.  The referee ejected two players outright and yellow-carded (warned) several others, which is rare indeed.  [When a player is ejected, that leaves 10 or less on the field meaning the players quickly become exhausted.]

Don’t get me wrong.  When you have devoted umpteen years (thousands of hours) to something, you begin to understand and relish the subtleties of that subject.  Even in the case of sports.  Some people who know me as more of a philosopher / spiritual practitioner may wonder about this aspect – but I am just being honest about me (the question I have heard more than once is – how does intellectual debate and over-paid athletics fit together in the same context?).  Well, my answer is such: When I watch a quality soccer match (like the upcoming World Cup will hopefully bring us), I see art in motion – the ball gracefully and eloquently dances around the field, often times only being touched once by each player, and yet it goes exactly where they intended it to.  Once you know the intricacies of the game, the strategy and the nuance start to open up, and you watch as these elite athletes do the impossible with the ball.  I believe there is a reason that soccer is the world’s sport – to get to be that good at something without using one’s hands, arms or shoulders truly requires consistent, diligent effort – and not to mention substantial reorganization of the brain’s synapses (we are “programmed” from birth to have faster development, easier dexterity and fine coordination in the hands, fingers and arms compared to the legs and feet).

Well guess what?  The above game reminded me that the astrological players (planets) are going through a shoving match of their own, but at present they are being more intense than usual.  The harsh tackles of the game made more sense in my mind, after observing “the stars” and their aspects.  Sure, some people would agree that these are overpaid, hot-headed athletes, and for them to let the heat of the moment get to them might make sense.  However, restraint and self-control are actually the norm.  So what is going on that might lead players to “attack” each other so harshly?

I want to state for the record that the planets do not actually “do” anything or directly cause any events to occur (obviously), rather they are a reflection of our ego states.  You could say that the planets represent and reflect parts of our collective and individual psyche.  So when the planets line up in heated aspects, that means internal psychological parts of us may be doing the same – internal conflicts being made transparent through the solar system.  For instance, there are constantly parts of our internal structures expanding, contracting, seeking pleasure, seeking stability, craving independence, etc – I believe the astrological planets represent these different flavors.

I would have to say that Saturn, Pluto and Uranus are involved, then throw in Mars being retrograde and the transiting Sun / Venus being conjunct transiting Neptune, and you have yourself a recipe for multiple impassioned, deluded, machismo-filled players.  I will run through these quickly, as I have touched on some of these aspects in previous posts (see the Spiritual Astrology category).

In the extremely fast pace of professional sports and in particular sports like soccer where there can easily be contact and tackles, grace and instantaneous reaction times and instincts are necessary to protect the body.  Split second decision making is the norm and the ability to cause harm to other players is always present, even inadvertently – it is the athlete’s restraint and instincts that normally protect them and each other.  And astrologically speaking, I believe that certain planets represent different parts of the body / mind system, in addition to their psychological ramifications.  And I wonder if response times would change if different parts of the psyche heat up as it were.  I certainly believe that decision making is affected, as was evident on the field that day.

So, I would say that the over-arching culprits were Saturn and Pluto.  These transiting giants have been making a Square aspect for several weeks now, which is finally starting to resolve.  Then Saturn will move into orb with Uranus, making an Opposition aspect as it completes its retrograde cycle.  Due to their orbit times, Saturn and Uranus will not be making a hard aspect for another 10 plus years.  Saturn is the cold, distant, stern, disciplinarian planet – the perfectionist and the efficient task-master (these are the traits in us that it reflects).  While Pluto is a dark, calculating, secret, stewing planet of transformation – imagine a hidden, subterranean pressure-cooker.  Both of these planets, in contemporary evolutionary astrology are indicators of the ripening of challenging Karma.  So, when they collide, it is generally a good idea to practice restraint, patience and self control – not to mention having your spiritual practice in order ahead of time (we never know what our karma has in store for us, but if we practice sincerely, I believe we might be able to lighten the burden as it were, if appropriate).

I am not intending to make a fatalistic prediction here – it is only when the Square aspect these giants are making falls directly on planets in our Natal Charts that the causes and conditions arise for challenging karma to manifest.  That is why life continues to go on for the rest of us.  To put this in understandable language,  Saturn is in early Libra at present, squaring transiting Pluto which is in early Capricorn.  They are both in Cardinal signs, which means there is a 90 degree, or Square aspect formed between them.  On an individual basis, if we have numerous planets, or if one of our significant personal planets is in the early degrees of Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra and Capricorn), then we should take some precautions during this time.  What I mean by major personal planets are the Sun, Moon or Mars (and / or the ruler of the chart, Sun or Moon).

Also, if you have a major planet in the late degrees of Mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius and especially Pisces), then Uranus (at present) and Saturn (coming in late March / April) will be making hard aspects to those.  Luckily these hard aspects fall in the more flexible Mutable signs, but I still might recommend some extra time for relaxing as these are two of the more potent transiting planets (Saturn, Uranus and Pluto are known for manifesting challenging karma – in terms of physical manifestations.  Neptune is also a karmic indicator, but it exclusively affects the mental / psycho-spiritual / creative realms).

I will touch on the precautions that I mention later, for now, I want to continue with the above recipe that I mentioned: Mars is also retrograde, plus transiting Venus and the Sun were conjunct transiting Neptune.  Whenever Mars goes retrograde, it is recommended to be a little less active physically and become more active with planning / reflection / introspection.  Actually I would add that more time is needed to stretch and warm up – we can still be as active but we must prepare our body more as Mars rules the musculature and connective tissue in the body.  Basically, if you have the capacity and the resources, when Mars goes retrograde (about once / 2.5 years) it is recommended to go into meditative retreat or at least to increase the time spent reflecting.  Mars rules the musculature, the blood (iron), athletes (it is the god of war), the head, plus the fine line between healthy competition and heated, aggressive conflict.  In general, when Mars goes retrograde, you can notice more injuries happening in professional sports – especially the sports where there is heavy contact (American football, soccer, hockey, rugby, etc).  More stretching and warm-up time is needed during its retrograde cycle.

Finally, the Sun and Venus were transiting and in conjunction with transiting Neptune, enhancing and amplifying the delusional and imaginative side of the mind for a week or so.  If we have a major planet in the late stages of the Fixed signs – Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius, then this combination could reflect our head being in the clouds for whatever reason.  I also believe that this combination might slow the reaction times in the body – Venus and Neptune are all about the subtleties of life – slowing down and enjoying the nuances of art, food, beauty, nature, etc.  The classical Taurus (ruled by Venus) and the typical Piscean are not quick to react or exceptionally dexterous, rather they are more clumsy and into the refined side of life.  So back to my theory: having the Big Three Karmic Giants active, plus Mars retrograde, in addition to Neptune’s influence, I think we saw numerous athletes lose their heads and their tempers and unfortunately it led to an ugly game.  Luckily no one was seriously injured.

In general, a good prescription for the above “ailments” is more rest and down time, and more importantly, know yourself.  If we know the red flags which make us reactive and hot under the collar, this is a great first line of defense.  We should probably stay away from situations where we might make costly errors in judgment during these times (like go to an upscale bar as opposed to the rowdy, competitive sports bar until the transits pass).  If we play sports, take the requisite time to stretch and if you feel your temper starting to flare, quickly demand a substitute.  Take some deep breaths – give the hot energy a healthy outlet.  I know a little about this, because in my personal soccer career, during Mars retrograde and transiting Pluto Conjunct my Sun Ruler (Neptune) and Square my Natal Sun, I sustained three injuries within several weeks of each other and quit playing as a result.  Luckily, through coaching, I can stay passionate and enthusiastic, yet stay safely on the sidelines.

Thanks for reading!  Have a great week.

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I am writing this post due to the growing number of fascinating and cathartic experiences my clients describe while receiving this potent, supplemental modality.  I say supplemental because I have merely gone through the first level of this extensive and comprehensive body of work, therefore in my practice, it has to be supplemental.  Although there are a few clients who might be content to receive BodyTalk techniques for an entire session.

What is BodyTalk?  see the above link for their description of the modality.

How does a practitioner apply BodyTalk to a session?  Personally, I tend to intuit when one or more of the BodyTalk techniques will come in handy.  In general, I find that when someone is very sensitive to energy work, they are more receptive and feel the resulting shifts from BodyTalk.  Other people might be less sensitive and they are more receptive to mechanical forms of Cranio Sacral therapy for instance, as opposed to really getting a lot out of these techniques.

In BodyTalk Access, the workshop I was trained in, there are 5 techniques taught: Cortices, Switching, Hydration, Body Chemistry and Reciprocals.  These are some of the foundational BodyTalk techniques and they come up fairly often, even when the practitioner has the full BodyTalk training (and many many additional tools from the BodyTalk repertoire).  Cortices works to balance the hemispheres and individual, specific cortices of the brain.  This is a beneficial technique for calming someone after a traumatic event, or for calming the body if there has been an injury (I used it when I sprained my ankle with very positive results).  Switching helps to calm the kidneys and the adrenal glands – if we are Mercurial types, this is a great technique to sooth the system and relax immediate worries.  Hydration helps the body receive and integrate water.  I also suspect there are deeper psycho-spiritual ramifications to this technique (like the deep moisture of authentic compassion and loving-kindness).  Body Chemistry is a potent technique which helps to aid the body in identifying and removing toxins, allergens and anything poisonous to the body – I have had some detoxifying experiences using it with clients – see below.  Finally, last but certainly not least, Reciprocals are an incredibly potent technique which basically puts the body’s connective tissue back into alignment.  Reciprocals takes the longest out of all five techniques as it is very comprehensive – connecting the limbs to the torso, the head to the shoulders and torso and urging the pelvis, spine and base of the skull to come into alignment.  There are many benefits to this practice, some of which I mention below.

What are some of the experiences clients have described?  Someone who is very sensitive to energy-work usually has significant shifts from BodyTalk techniques.  One client in particular responds with rapid calming and settling to reciprocals, cortices and body chemistry.  It is almost as if she is, by far, an energetic being having a human experience, and this work provides a direct link to her energetic body.

Another client wanted to receive all five tools in a session, which I was happy to provide.  She was interested in the potential healing shifts, along with being introduced to the work.  However, she called me the next morning and said, “Kirby!  What did you do yesterday??!!”  I was surprised by this direct question, and asked her what she was talking about, so she asked about the session.  I told her I had only done what we were trained to do in the Access workshop.  She then said, “I am excited because this morning was the first time in twenty years that I woke up without pain!”  Wow!  That is exciting – I had not realized it, but she said her jaw really bothered her but that morning and for another three weeks, it was pain free.  She went on to take at least three levels of BodyTalk and she is still studying it.  That was two years ago…   :^)

Finally, when I was doing the actual BodyTalk Access workshop, my partner and I, who is a friend, were Body Chemistry with each other.  He is also a sensitive fellow, someone who can see the aura and observe shifts in his client’s energetic body.  As I did Body Chemistry with him, I started to notice that he was perspiring more than usual.  Soon thereafter, a pungent odor arose, which I had smelled before, and one that I associate with someone detoxifying.  I asked him about both of these things, and he made a curious excuse about needing to eat lunch.  Personally I am certain that he was detoxing and that Body Chemistry was a major reason for his doing so.  Talk about a direct experience!  His perspiration and detoxing occurred within 5 minutes of doing BodyChemistry.

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Hello Readers,

In this post, it is my intention to clarify what Metta Reiki is.  I hope you all do not mind a few plugs scattered here and there, but considering I am self-employed, in addition to maintaining an informative blog, this is what I do “at work.”  There have been many hits on the Metta Reiki page of my blog, in fact, if I were to speculate, I would say at least a quarter of the blog’s traffic views this page.

It is my intention to cover these topics: 1) as a student of Reiki, I would like to know more about Metta Reiki; 2) what benefits might I receive from exploring Metta Reiki?; 3) I have my own healing facilitation practice, how can I incorporate Metta Reiki into my practice?; 4) What can I expect in a class / workshop?; 5) How might Metta Reiki benefit me or my practice?

For a brief overview, please see the page “Metta Reiki.”Achi Chokyi Drolma, Lama House, Frederick, Md

I have been fortunate with my many teachers – Tibetan Lamas (some well known, others who are / were secret yogis), process-oriented bodywork instructors, traditional Reiki Masters, practitioners of Indigenous rituals, a Sufi Master  and multiple, astrologers / authors.  It is my intention that what I offer please my teachers.  Out of all of them, ones who taught me how to slow down appropriately and mindfully, and practice kindness to self are perhaps the most profound, and that is what I attempt to emulate in offering Metta Reiki.

My passion is in introducing people to inner resources of loving-kindness, compassion and potency (within us all).  Hugh Milne has a quote in “The Heart of Listening,” that goes, “we can never go too deep, but we can go too fast.”  Through practicing Biodynamic Craniosacral therapy and traditional Reiki, along with attending many highly-respected Tibetan Lamas and other realized teachers, plus maintaining a Buddhist meditation practice, I have experience with Metta practices, (energetic) field dynamics, tools for self care and a practice of compassion and skillful means.

Metta Reiki is a fusion of Tibetan Buddhist practices, simple exercises for well-being (primarily from Zapchen Somatics), Compassionate Communication and traditional Usui Reiki.  One of my primary intentions is to go slow enough to allow for graceful integration and to develop a comprehensive understanding of what is possible when we rest down into our heart and listen to what it has to share.  Tools for appropriate self care – energetic balancing, physical relaxing, mental calming, etc – are considered vital and are taught accordingly.  These tools come from a number of modalities, including Craniosacral Therapy, Tibetan Buddhism, BodyTalk, traditional Reiki, Zapchen Somatics and Spiritual Processing.  I try to share the most potent tools that I use in my personal practice.

The benefits one receives from exploring Metta Reiki are plenty and diverse.  First, you slow down enough to practice kindness to yourself – to truly check in and ask, “What are my needs?  Are they being met?  Are they appropriate?  How can I shift my lifestyle to accommodate my authentic needs?”  Second, students are introduced to techniques which they can use both with themselves and with others for rapid relaxation and subsequent healing.  In Craniosacral Therapy, there are states known as still-points where we can rest so deeply that our body is in a state of relaxation beyond that of sleep.  The still point is where we do the most reorganization and re-patterning.  Over time and with practice, there are techniques that can get a diligent practitioner to these states without needing help from anyone else.  (Keep in mind I would never recommend against receiving bodywork from a qualified practitioner, but receiving, for example, hundreds of sessions can be pricey.)  Finally, Metta Reiki is a great way to start one’s inner journey toward self-discovery and practicing kindness to self.  It is non-sectarian, despite there being some meditations from Buddhism, and I do not promote any religion over another.

If you maintain a healing facilitation practice, then you may want to explore Metta Reiki.  If you find yourself burnt out after seeing many clients in a week, or if there are some weeks when it is difficult to motivate yourself, then these workshops will provide you with tools for quality self care.  How can we shift our ways of relating to others to be more appropriate?  How can we develop equanimity to better handle any situation we come across?  Metta Reiki provides tools for discovering alignment and resting in equanimity.

In a typical Metta Reiki workshop, one can expect to be in good company.  It is my intention to have participants who are open to growth and transformation, who are willing to look at some potentially uncomfortable aspects of their lives with the purpose of re-patterning and moving forward from those old paradigms.  My ideal demographic is ages 17 to 77, of diverse backgrounds and cultures, who are willing to shift conditioned patterns which no longer serve and to move toward patterns of kindness, openness and wholesome enjoyment of life.  Over time, and after completing Level Three and Four, it is my intention for workshop participants to grow to understand the healing process, both in themselves and in others (their potential clients).

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So… for those of you fascinated by the first article, you will discover my theory(s) about dealing with Uranus in hard aspect to Venus below.  For those of you who have not read Part I, I would highly recommend going back and doing so.

Several thoughts arise when I consider Uranus in aspect to Venus in a Natal Chart.  First, Please keep in mind that spiritual (evolutionary) astrology is quite complex, therefore, to only look at one aspect in a chart and to think that you can isolate it and its reflected traits without considering the rest of the chart is simply in error.  As a result, please, please(!) do not read this series of posts and think that you know all about someone who has this aspect in their charts.  Rather, spend time getting to know the whole chart – it can take years, seriously – before jumping to any solid conclusions or assumptions.  Also, when we practice frequency based astrology, you never know where the person is on their psycho-spiritual path, so we cannot label a certain aspect and say, “Oh you have “X” squaring “Y”, therefore you must do / think / process “Z”…”  Nope!  Does not work like that – in fact, that is what gives astrology a bad name (see fortune telling).  Choice-centered, frequency-based astrology takes many, many factors into consideration before concluding anything, and it should be a fluid, flexible conclusion – not the written in stone, “it can’t change” prediction.

Speaking of fortune telling, I wanted to make certain that my audience understands that I do not agree with the teacher who told me about this aspect (Uranus and Venus causing men to require new partners every few years).  We do not know what karma is in store for us – and I have certainly seen exceptions to this rule – men who lived happily with their partners for twenty years or more, while having Uranus in a hard aspect to their Venus in their birth charts.

In my personal experience, I believe that A) once we discover who we are and what we need from a partner to lead an inspiring, growth-filled existence, then B) we can seek out that partner.  However there is a reason most people cannot do this, when we are going through life reacting to each situation and keeping so busy trying to just make ends meet, that taking a lot of time out of our lives to unwind the deeper essence of our being might be out of the question.  To get down underneath all of the layers of conditioning and “you-are-supposed-to-do-X-with-your-life” thinking, takes a lot of time and contemplative energy.  So are you willing to work on yourself first?  When I was in the 9th grade in high school I told my mother, who might have asked me about girls at the time, I said, “you know Mom, I want to improve myself until I meet the right one.”  Little did I know it at the time, but that is what I have been doing, and I think it is what is necessary if we want to avoid some of the pitfalls I am pointing out in this article.

What is someone going through who has this aspect?  In answering this, the complexities surrounding a chart must be considered.  Merely having Venus opposite Uranus does not mean much in the way of challenging traits.  It can bring about magnetism, charisma, charm, guile, jealousy, flashiness, bohemian likes and desires, and / or a unique fashion sense among other traits – which depends on the signs involved and house placement of the aspect.  If someone has many beneficial aspects in their chart (keeping in mind that some squares and oppositions manifest positively) and very few challenging ones, then a Venus / Uranus contact can be positive overall, without much in the way of hectic forms of relating.  However, in my limited experience, trouble can arise (in intimate relationships) when there are a number of Saturn / Pluto / Neptune hard aspects in a chart plus Venus / Uranus.  I will develop this idea further…

It is my humble belief that we are purifying our karma in each incarnation as human beings.  However, while we keep that in mind, it should not be used as a crutch – we can’t say, “Oh, I act like that because it says so in my chart.”  This is an erroneous belief, in addition to being a horrible excuse, and a foolhardy method of going through life.  Rather, I would recommend saying, “my chart would indicate certain proclivities.  I have noticed these tendencies manifesting within intimate relationships.  Now, having this foresight, what can I do to work on deepening my awareness, practice mindfulness and strengthening my inner resources to gently confront and change these patterns?”

We can always be thankful for the opportunity to purify our challenging karma – just don’t lean on it too hard, or give up saying, “what’s the point?  My karma is my karma.”  That is also in error – the Buddha, among other spiritual teachers, said that we have to work on ourselves in order to grow and improve.  No one can save us, no one will do the work for us (at least not the work which results in lasting transformation).  We have to step up to the plate and say, “okay – this is my issue.  I acknowledge it.  And now I will try to practice being gentle and kind with myself and with my process as I work through it.”

Back to the astrological issue at hand – Venus and Uranus, while keeping the above information in mind, we can start to discuss what this aspect is and ways around / through the energy.  As I mentioned, someone who has a lot of personal growth work to do around their inner patterns, who also has a hard aspect between these two, will probably be reactive and involved in some strong, subconscious projection and defense mechanisms, especially in intimate relationships.  So, the first step is to gain some clarity about the self – meditate, do yoga, chill out in a contemplative manner, have your chart done by a professional, spend quality quiet time in nature, go to a therapist (for a number of months at least – get into the uncomfortable material and gently continue working it) and / or receive bodywork from a qualified practitioner or any number of introspective alternatives.  If you have experienced trauma as a youngster or if you suffer from high levels of anxiety or worry (indicators of early trauma or birth trauma perhaps), then you should not do talk therapy alone.  Seriously – there is the possibility this could just re-trigger you and possibly re-traumatize you without allowing you to release the deep cellular wounding.  Rather supplement talk therapy with some form of bodywork or at least do some acupuncture as well.

If an individual has done a lot of their personal growth work, then they are aware of their old tendencies and patterns and they have either released them, compensated appropriately or learned positive methods / tools for adapting.  If an individual does not have much in the way of strong, subconscious patterns or reactions, then they have many choices – to be in a long-term intimate relationship, where they can speak their needs and requests and have them honored, or they can discuss their patterns and habits with their partners and work something out, maybe living separately but still being together, among other options.

As I mentioned in Part One, space is necessary where Uranus is concerned.  So there are many ways to create a win-win situation within partnerships with one or both partners having this particular hard aspect.  Have a separate bed ready in case you want some space, or do what my aunt and uncle do – have separate houses.  One of the partners might travel quite a bit, creating natural space and allowing creative, positive tension to build by not being around each other every day.  There are options – talk about it and try to understand each other’s needs and then meet them.

Remember as well that astrology is a blue print of our ego.  And most of us are very attached and tied to our ego states.  However, with diligent meditative practice, we can start to overcome the ego, or at least gain control over it.  Supposedly, when the Buddha attained enlightenment, he was no longer affected by his astrology – because his only wish is to benefit all sentient beings, there is no ego to wrestle with.  Wow- there is hope after all!

There are many manifestations of relating with awareness and clear communication but the take home message from this aspect is to expect a bit of excitement, freshness and magnetism.  If you are in a relationship with someone who has a hard aspect between these two, you might want to analyze where they are on their path – are they embodied?  Have they done much in the way of personal introspection?  Do they react strongly or in strange ways when you make requests? If this answer is yes, then expect them to grow and to change – so I would recommend not being too attached.  But you should ask yourself why you have attracted that person into your life, if you wanna.

Or on the other hand, are they mindful, kind and patient – both with themselves and others?  Do they take time for themselves – time for self care?  Then you might have a bit more of a clue as to how conscious they are of their inner processes.

The heart speaks a language of its own, and it truly takes time to learn that language (especially for men who grow up in Western cultures).  Then honoring what we hear the heart saying takes even longer.  So have heart, and more importantly, have patience – with your heart, with your partner and with yourself.  When we have this aspect in our charts, we have the capacity to hear that new language of the heart, but do we have the courage to march to the beat of our own drum?  Plus we need resources – time, energy, financial – to take the time we need to move toward present, wholesome embodiment.  It is well worth the journey.

These words were hastily written in November 2009 by Kirby Moore.  Updated 3/1/2010, further supplemented in 2015.

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I am writing this series for several reasons.  First, I would like to inform my audience of my experience and opinion regarding astrological Venus in aspect to Uranus and how this affects relationships.  Second, my theory will be introduced about how we can avoid the typical flash-in-the-pan relationships which often arise with Uranus and Venus combinations.  Finally, I will gingerly discuss the ramifications of what I am proposing – most of which will be in further posts.  [Please note – anyone with sensitivities to colorful language or sexual topics should quit reading now.]

Normally, I would not be so frank and open, but it feels like this information needs to be shared.  Because these are my intimate thoughts on a delicate subject, I ask you to not reproduce anything written here – if you want to refer people to my blog that is fine.  With that, I am writing what is near and dear to my heart.  Having in my horoscope, this funky little aspect, of Venus square Uranus (6 degree orb), has been a fascinating experience and journey.  Many astrologers – both my teachers and peers – have shared their thoughts with me about this dynamic.  And actually it is funny how the mind works (my afflicted mind in particular) – for several years, I would casually glance over and past this aspect in my chart.  I’m not sure what my reasoning was – “oh it’s 6 degrees, that’s too wide to matter…  I think… moving on now…”  Subconsciously I think I knew this aspect indicated work that needed to be done, however I was not ready to face it.

Something like that, except I did not consciously realize it was uncomfortable until one day, my first main astrology (and meditation) teacher, about a year into our teacher / student relationship, told me, “you know Kirby, men with Uranus in hard aspect to their Venus cannot keep an erection after several years of being with the same woman.”  I thought about this for a minute.  Then I realized… oh damn!

“Hey!  Wait a minute.. I have Venus square Uranus in my chart…”  I replied.  Well, yes you might have guessed it, she was a Sagittarius and Sagittarians are exceptionally talented at sticking their feet in their mouths.  She was no exception to this rule and she answered with, “oh… well..  maybe you will find a way around this…”  She did not realize, as far as I could tell, that she was pointing out something from my chart when she said it.  Nonetheless, her response definitely sounded flaky, leaving me undecided between dumping my respect for her (and possibly regretting it later) or realizing I had some significant work ahead of me.  I thought to myself, “well, so much for traditional relationships,” or to be more honest and accurate, “Damn it!!…  I’m screwed!”  Actually, having six years of cathartic, plumbing-the-psychological-depths-spiritual-practice time, I feel I have discovered some ways around it.

I now realize that this teacher was not justified in proclaiming the encompassing blanket prediction like she did.  I say this for several reasons – first, consider the raw numbers of men who possess this aspect in their charts – I am absolutely certain that at least a few of them do just fine being with the same woman.  Second, each Venus / Uranus hard aspect is different – house placement, signs involved and how the partner plays a role in this dynamic.  If you think about it, consider how many people have Uranus in hard aspect to Venus.  The opposition, square and conjunction are three aspects, and say each has a seven degree orb (both sides of the aspect), we are looking at 14 degrees per aspect.  Three aspects times 14 is 42 degrees of the birth chart, and 42 into 360 (all the degrees of a chart) is 7 / 60.  Therefore, if this statement is entirely true, seven men out of 60 would have this issue and therefore would have a major difficulty maintaining intimate relationships with the same woman for more than a couple years.  Consider the United States having 300 million people living in it, say half are men.  Then this ratio produces the number of 18 million men in the U.S.   To me, this number seems high.  Sure, the divorce rate is increasingly higher, but I would argue that there are many (other) factors involved.  Not to mention the fact that each of our karmas is different.

Second, consider all the possible mixtures of these two planets.  Uranus in aspect to Venus can happen in any sign and in any house of the horoscope.  The conjunction would produce the same house, same sign contact.  The opposition produces an opposite house / opposite sign dynamic, and the square can be in any number of sign / house alignments.  I have to wonder if there are some houses that diminish the affects of this aspect.  For instance, the angular houses of the 1st, 4th, 7th and 10th houses seem to give more strength and physical manifestation to the planets occupying them.  This is the case in my chart, but it would only be the case in one out of three charts having this hard aspect occurring.  It seems like having this aspect in the succedent houses – 3rd, 6th, 9th and 12th – would soften the physical manifestation of the dynamic – it might affect the personality or the mind.  Then, as I mentioned, another piece of this puzzle to consider is the partner.  Actually, I am going to touch on this extensively in Part II of this series.

To me, Uranus in hard aspect to Venus (square, opposition and conjunction) produces eccentric, authentic relationship needs and sometimes this dynamic can be discerned through the softer aspects of the trine, sextile and quincunx.  So, what is this series of aspects about?  Uranus is a fast energy – buzzing and electrifying, it energizes the nervous system and speeds up synapses in the brain – basically leading to wittier thinking, ingenious ideas and outside-the-box, ahead-of-the-curve types.  Uranian types are the visionaries of our time – thinking at least 20 years ahead of conventional methods.  Venus of course, is all about love, art and what we desire (to keep it simple).  Combine the two, especially in a hard aspect and you suddenly have an individual who, in intimate relationships, easily bores of the same routine, the same types of love making, the same responses and reactions – they have a flare for the unique and for freshness.  They need to find ways to liven up their relationships and to do new activities and explore new places – maybe expand the social and psycho-spiritual circles as a couple.  And most importantly, there is a need for space – nothing clingy or sticky is allowed for long when Uranus is involved (there might be some RARE exceptions to this rule when Scorpio / Pluto is involved).

There is another piece of Uranus that I would like to touch on.  Uranus, to me, has an element of enlightenment within it.  Clairvoyance, lightning bolts of clarity and insight, and intuitively knowing what direction to move in – instantly – are some of Uranus’ higher frequency gifts.  Now, combine that with Venus, and you get a mind that is capable of making a decision rapidly, regarding an intimate relationship and then it is just as capable of thinking weeks, months and even years into the future regarding where a relationship is heading or where one could go if the relationship were redefined.  Uranus demands authenticity, and if we listen carefully, whole heartedly, with patience, deliberation and discernment (not jumping to any rapid conclusions as the mind is very capable of throwing some curve balls), we can know when we find a suitable mate or when we have found another growth experience.

In conclusion, people with Uranus in hard aspect to Venus have an exciting, fresh and unique method of being in intimate relationships.  One of my teachers, whom I respect, mentioned a controversial ramification of this aspect, which I am apt to disbelieve.  In further posts, I intend to elaborate on my theory regarding this dynamic.

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I finally received a request from a reader.  Hey hey!  Things are looking up.  Well… at least I have a few readers <grin grin>.  The request from Sachin Pednekar was to write something informative about the Moon signs.  It was mentioned that occasionally Sun sign descriptions do not fit and, rather, the Moon sign seemed to be much more accurate in describing traits.  (I hope I got that right).  The final paragraphs of this article begin to answer this question, where the meat of the text is context for doing so.

In astrology, the Big Three are known as the Rising Sign or the Ascendant, the Sun and the Moon.  If you know all three, then you can tell them to an astrologer and s/he can get a basic sense of your chart (just from these three pieces – hence their importance).  The Rising Sign is an important feature in the chart as it sets the template or the framework that one’s planets fall into.  It also determines what energy (planet) is manifesting in what area of life (the houses).  Without the birth time, it is challenging to get a really accurate interpretation because the Rising Sign is determined using the time of birth.  For instance being born at sunrise vs. midnight would make a significant difference in the chart.  The Sun, of course, is the primary energy in the chart, the impulse to be, to take action and to progress through life.  The Sun is basically the driver behind the other planets as well – for example, Venus takes the Sun’s energy and transforms and molds it to manifest in her silky, sensual, artistic manner.  This is the case with the rest of the planets as well.  [Jupiter is the only planet that technically gives off a little of its own energy.]  The way in which we interact with the public, with strangers and our primary purpose for being here is colored by the Sun’s sign, house placement and aspects.  And finally, the Moon: It is my intention to describe the Lunar orb first, as this is such an integral and personal planet – having much to do with our form, physiological and emotional functions (among many other attributes).

I want to mention as a disclaimer, that one of the reasons we have astrologers in the world is that the art of choice-centered, frequency-based astrological interpretations is a very complex process.  It takes years to learn and even longer to master (I’m not there yet).  There are many, many factors to take into account when doing someone’s chart, therefore, when you read the following paragraphs, please, please(!) don’t say – “Oh, he says <blank> about that Moon sign, I have that in my chart, therefore <blank> must be true about me.”  Nope!  Before jumping to any solid conclusions, go have your chart done by a professional (like me).  With that, please enjoy these thoughts which I hastily wrote off the top of my head.

Among astrologers, it is common knowledge that the Sun rules the male body and the Moon rules the female body.  Upon hearing this, someone might assume that the Sun is stronger in male’s charts and vice verse.  Actually I believe we often come in with a stronger polarity in one direction – for instance, someone might have had many lives as a beautiful woman, and then they take a male rebirth.  I would say there is a good chance you would find that particular man to be more sensitive, receptive and more in touch with his inner feminine than the “average male.”  The same goes for women – sometimes you find a woman’s chart having a preponderance of fire and air signs, often leading to a strong, outspoken woman; and thankfully so – with fiery women come the progression of women’s rights and liberties.  So, without a more in depth analysis of the chart, one cannot tell which planet – Sun or Moon will be stronger.  Overall there might be a tendency for Sun to be stronger for men and the Moon for women.

In my limited experience, the Moon is one of the strongest indicators of where we have been in recent past lives.  Another way of putting this is that the Moon sign, house placement, its aspects and its sign’s ruler reveals what we have been working on the most in recent incarnations.  This makes sense when you consider that the Moon rules our instinctive reactions, our defense mechanisms and our gut feelings.  Basically the essence of the Moon (sign, placement, element, etc) is so deeply ingrained within us that we now react in its manner without needing to be conscious of the decision / re-action.  For instance, an Aries Moon in the 9th house (that did not have significant hard aspects) may show an increased devotion to political or social progress – most likely indicating the individual is an activist and participant in protests and social movements, there would be a definite camaraderie with those of lesser fortunes – empathy for the underdogs of the world.  If there was some strong Saturn, 11th house planets, a strong Uranus, or Sun in Aquarius for instance, this Moon placement would blend very well for a desire to be involved in progressive movements and non-profit, benefit-others groups, maybe even being a manager or organizer within them.

This Aries energy would show an ability to stand on their own two feet, possibly having been in a warrior / guardian / mercenary position in the past – leading to quick reactions and rapid, instinctive actions.  And to bring this warrior energy into the body, an individual with an Aries Moon would need to do some work to relax their adrenals – call it what you will – karma, birth trauma, childhood wounds, social conditioning, etc, but something would be making their adrenals and sympathetic nervous system run on overtime.  The “fight-flight-or-freeze” mechanism may not ever turn off completely, until an authentic healing regimen has been adhered to (see other posts on this blog for further info here).  Their natural (without a lot of healing work) stance would be tense, rigid and ready to spring into action.

As the Moon is an indicator of where we have been, it is a deeper, often subconscious influence.  In general the Moon sign and placement is referred to as the manner in which we relate with ourselves.  Where the Sun generally represents how we react and display ourselves to the public, the Moon is often more secretive.  It’s nature only comes out when you get to know the person better.  Or, if you know what you are looking for, and you know the person’s Moon sign (and chart), then you can see this lunar influence flavoring their lives and their reactions.  There are exceptions to this rule, but the Moon is generally a quieter influence in a chart until you gain the individual’s trust.  This is the case because the Moon rules the home, domestic needs and attitudes, that which is deep below the surface, and the mother; along with having a strong familial association.  Therefore if the person starts to treat you like a family member, then their Moon sign and placement will be much more obvious.

In conclusion, I would recommend having an open mind to chart analysis – get information from many books before coming to any major conclusions.  Preferably, get a professional astrologer to interpret your chart, as there are many factors which go into having a quality interpretation conducted.  Regarding the Moon, it plays in a role in our instinctive reactions, our moods, intuition and defensive mechanisms, as well as physiological functions (some hormone production, fertility, the womb, the skin and other influences come under its lunar rulership).  The Moon has a lot to do with what we want in a home and regarding domestic affairs – how big, how stable (do we like to roam while having a solid place to return to), who else is in our home with us, do we want a family at all?  How big a family?

To answer the question which was posed by a reader – why does it seem that some people’s Moon signs are readily evident, even when compared to their Sun signs? – well first, it is complicated.  I know, what a cliche!  But it is true – the Sun enjoys being in certain signs and certain houses (known as its Rulership – Leo or Exaltation – Aries or Joy – 9th house) and it would rather not be in others.  The same is true for the Moon (Rules Cancer, Exalts in Taurus, takes its Joy in the 3rd house) and the Moon has signs where the energy is very cold or dry, not typical lunar traits.  Remember what I said above, about our Moon signs being more personal and maybe even secretive.  If you are really open minded, tending to offer unconditional loving-kindness to those around you, then guess what?  Those people will probably open up really, really rapidly and their Moon sign will be available for public viewing.  And finally, I have another theory which we will add to what I have mentioned above.

This alternative or supplemental theory is this: hard (major), strong (close orb) aspects play a significant role in what psycho-spiritual issues we are dealing with in life (especially in this particular incarnation).  To describe this in brief, the hard aspects are the Conjunction, the Square and the Opposition.  In general the Square and the Opposition aspects tend to lead to challenges or obstacles which we must overcome, and the same can be true of the Conjunction depending on the planets involved (certain planets work really well together, others not so much).  If we have our Natal Saturn making an exact Square (e.g. Saturn at 9 degrees of Virgo, Moon at 9 degrees of Gemini) to our Natal Moon, then I would posit that the Moon’s sign manifestation will be grossly restricted.  In this case, it might be difficult to tell which mutable sign their Moon is in.  There might be a Saturnian, stern, dutiful attitude which travels with this person until they have undergone some personal growth work (bringing awareness to their defense mechanisms and their personality structures, etc).  It might seem like they have days of stern pessimism blended with other days of incredible productivity.

To continue this theme, its seems to me that the Moon is especially susceptible to significant aspects (close orb).  This makes sense when you consider it is the primary emotional and possibly even the primary reproductive impulse in the body / mind system.  It is associated with so much which we take for granted – moods, reactions, instincts, etc.  Therefore, having the Moon conjunct Pluto or the Moon opposite Neptune begins to play an even larger role in our lives, and in the individual’s psycho-spiritual make up.  So… in taking up the question, again, we find there are many variables, and maybe, in your case, most of your friends have Natal Moons that are making close aspects and therefore this dynamic colors their life and their personality more – making the Moon sign more obvious, maybe even more so than the Sun.

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