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This is a continuation from a previous post, I would highly recommend going back and reading the beginning of the story which is one post back. And like I mentioned in that post I have the mothers explicit permission to share the story.

I should also mention that when I work with babies it is mostly all backed up by scientific research and compassionate and safe and professional touch. However in this particular case things took quite a detour into the esoteric realms. This rarely ever happens, at least to me.

So here I was working with the mother and daughter who was experiencing night terrors off and on for the past month. It had somehow come to pass that I had gotten in touch with a friend who knew a Mongolian shaman in Mongolia and she had relayed my request for assistance in working with this little girl.

Having completed the typical birth process session inside we went outside to conduct the shamans suggested ritual. First we collected the necessary ingredients: candlewax a spoon a bowl of water A lighter and some salt. Next we went outside and gathered wood to start a fire.

The shaman had told me what to do and had given me a little mantra to say at the right time and so we were ready. We lit the fire, the mom went and got her daughter, and then we started to conduct the ritual. 

First I melted the candle wax in the spoon near the mom and daughter. Then holding the melted candle wax near the daughters head, I said the mantra to encourage the spirits to leave the daughter. Next we poured the wax into the bowl of water and having done that we sprinkled some pinches of salt on the fire. And finally the shaman had said that the mother needed to move the baby over the fire three times.

And that was it. The very simple ritual with a little bit more involved that I’m not mentioning but that is the gist of it. So now I’m hoping to get feedback on whether or not the little girl has any more night terrors.

I am very thankful that I was able to get support from an unexpected source. When I looked up night terrors on Google almost everything came back saying they would go away on their own or that it was just stress related; in other words my searching Google for half an hour on night terrors was basically useless and I definitely needed extra assistance. In fact, almost everything from medical websites written by doctors nearly all said that night terrors would go away on their own. Anyone want to tell me how helpful that is? Especially to a mother who is averaging 2 to 3 hours of sleep per night for the past few weeks. 😦

So again just to re-emphasize this: I normally work with babies in a way that is backed up by science and evidence-based research. I love working with babies and mothers and I look forward to doing a lot more of this in the future. 

I just want to share this story because of its unusual and amazingly serendipitous quality.

Thank you for reading,

Kirby

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I have permission to share the story, which is important.

I want to start out by mentioning that nearly every baby session I do with mother and babies is based on science and evidence-based research. I enjoy working with babies and mothers and hope to continue to do so for a long time to come. However here is the story with a bit of an esoteric bent:

I have recently been in the Pacific Northwest where I have been treating babies and toddlers for the past week. It’s been a great experience and I’ve had the chance to meet other practitioners and have them learn from these sessions as well.

One mother worked with me with her newborn and that was a miraculous session. Therefore she wanted me to work with her toddler, a little girl. She told me this little girl has been having night terrors for about four weeks which is also about the age of her newborn as well, which plays in the story later. The daughter had to be resuscitated at her birth. However it was a homebirth and for the most part went according to plan. (Of course resuscitation is a big deal, and a big interruption to the birth plan.)

These night terrors always happened around the same time most nights, and then the daughter would be up for several hours afterward.  The family was losing tons of sleep.. they were desperate for support.

Because I haven’t worked with many babies who needed to be resuscitated I asked several friends and colleagues for advice. And I asked a friend of mine who has done a lot of international traveling, who I thought dealt with previous night terrors of her own (turns out I was wrong about that). 

It turns out that this friend was actually in touch with a Mongolian shaman in Ulaanbatar and that she was translating what the shaman told me to do in regard to this little girl. Sometimes when we ask for support, it arrives in esoteric unusual (but definitely appreciated!!) ways!

The shaman told me several important things. First of all newborns who have to be resuscitated are extremely spiritually sensitive. Their auras are more open than usual and they need to be within 2 to 3 m of their parents to avoid seeing or hearing or interacting with wandering spirits. As a result of this the shaman also mentioned that this little girl should be sleeping in the same room in the same bed with her parents. Now don’t worry too much, because the shaman said that by the time she was between three and five years old and her aura would repair itself as it were. She said her spiritual immune system would mature enough so she could sleep in her own room.

The shaman gave me a ritual to do with this little girl to clear spiritual attachments which she had picked up recently. More on this in a bit.

Now it just so turns out that there is a local energy worker or energy medicine practitioner in the area. And this lady told the mother that this little girl had picked up some spiritual attachments at the hospital when her newborn was born four weeks ago. This energy worker also told the mother to visualize fire as she massaged the newborns back and kidneys, to imagine the spiritual attachments burning off and then moving into a deep blue space.

On a sidenote, honestly I don’t think I could make up a story more coincidental and Bizzarre like this one. It is pretty darn amazing. I had no idea that the mother had already been told about the spiritual attachments or the fire was already recommended for her. Frankly I didn’t even realize I’d be communicating with a shaman about this baby. But it was meant to be.

Needless to say, I approached the topic of doing a shamanic ritual with her daughter very gingerly. I even said something like, you know if my daughter had night terrors for a month I’d be almost willing to try anything. But it turns out I didn’t need to convince her very much because she soon told me the story about this energy worker and what she had recommended. The energy worker had told her that her daughter had picked up the spiritual attachments at the hospital where her newborn was delivered.

Therefore she was actually quite open to doing this shamanic ritual. There were several other practitioners present so we went through about a 40 minute conversation with mom and daughter about how things were during her early months and how things were with dad and the rest of her family etc. this early portion was like a typical birth process session.

By the way I love working with babies and mothers and the first session I offer with newborns is free. Let me know if you live in central Virginia and you know of any mothers and your babies who may be having a tough time. I’m happy to offer support and I’ve gotten good training with myrna martin and Janet Evergreen.
To be continued

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A classic double bind

OK this material is pretty deep. I might recommend having good support around you or having a friend you can call if reading this brings anything up for you; of course you could always call and schedule a session with me if you would like. Area code +1 434, 465-0603 USA.

One neumonic for countering this deep icky psychological material is to feel your feet, to feel the base of your body and to notice your breath. 

So let’s do that now: wiggle some toes, notice that wiggle move thru your legs.  Feel what part of you is touching the floor or your chair or your sofa, etc.  notice where your weight is.  And finally feel your breath , is it shallower tonight?  Are you doing more belly breaths?  Just noticing, nothing to fix, nothing to do.

Now into the juicy material: one classic double bind is as follows: because one of my parents is not really able to self regulate and they’re not able to take care of their emotions, the child has this primary conflict within them. On one side it says “I have to sacrifice my needs or my feelings to take care of my dad’s or mom’s needs and feelings.”  Of course this is not true but this is what the child encounters when they’re in the womb or early in their development and because a young baby’s brain has so much developing yet to do, the baby has no choice but to take on that belief as if it was theirs. The other side of the conflict is that the baby says to themselves “I am not allowed to have my own feelings or needs.” And this is pretty miserable.  Both are happening simultaneously.

As a result of having this conflicting set of beliefs within them, the child also develops sub-beliefs which are also known as forks off of the main double bind. One fork off of this double bind might be: I have to make everyone feel OK. Another fork might be the child part of themselves saying: I don’t matter. And yet another fork would be “I always have to be good or happy or charming.”

And just think, if someone has these beliefs about not being able to have feelings or especially not being able to express objection or anger, then if we cut off our authentic needs and feelings for too long, is that they will have a lot of underlying rage to deal with at some point in their lives. Ooph!!  This is intense stuff.

This is a very brief overview of one typical double blind, so if you have questions please do let me know. Or contact your local therapist or counselor. If you want to see how double binds show up in the astrology chart then let me know. Or if you want to schedule a phone session or an in person session also let me know.

Thanks for Reading!

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PPN intensive workshop in Nelson BC

I just attended an incredible workshop in the Kootenays.  This intensive was led by Myrna Martin and it focused on double binds, chemical and surgical birth imprints.

It was a small group so we really got to know each other well and I believe the intimacy assisted us to go deeper into the material.  The intensive was held in the gorgeous mountains above Nelson BC Canada. I hiked every other morning and did yoga and meditation on the other mornings. There was an incredible cook making a delicious assortment of meals. Foods like dabo dabo- or Indonesian street food and sushi bowls and Nepali dal and vegetables etc.  

it was really a special experience and hopefully our group stays in contact and is able to support each other for the upcoming year.

The material was really professional and profound. It definitely benefited me personally as well as professionally. In my next post I will discuss and give examples of double binds.  It was so incredibly beneficial for me!

And I know my clients will benefit deeply as well.  I am excited to share this work when I get back to Virginia.

Tomorrow however I am heading over to one of the golf Islands called salt Spring Island. On salt Spring I’m going to teach a class on how to treat babies and I’m going to rest and hike and integrate after this profound experience in Nelson.

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In Vancouver, prepping

I am presently in Vancouver.  Getting ready for a birth process work intensive, also known as pre- and perinatal therapy.  It is a two week intensive.

This is level 2, which focuses on chemical and mechanical birth imprints (what interventions were used) as well as looking at ancestral double binds.  As a result, this is supposed to be a “big” workshop.  Im sure I will need time afterward to integrate and process.

After the workshop, I am heading back to Vancouver to go to Salt Spring Island, an island in the gulf, between Victoria and Vancouver – it is a three-hour ferry ride!  I am teaching a small group there in how to work with babies (from a Craniosacral perspective).  I’m super excited for all of it.

Wish me luck!

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I am writing this post, basically passing along a story I heard.  I have not tried this yet, so don’t know if it actually works.  However, I am thinking about getting my paints out and doing some artwork.  Maybe I will also do a few pieces along these lines.

A friend sent me a story about a woman in Germany who was in poor shape health-wise due to a chronic Lyme’s infection (and maybe some other co-infections).  She had tried antibiotics and did not have much success with that route.  Then she tried several herbs and I think her infection was too far along, so she was in right bad shape…

So, maybe out of desperation, one day she did some research and looked up what a Lyme’s spirochete looks like.  Then she started doing some sketches and then she did some paintings.  She painted the Lyme’s spirochetes in her body and she painted herself in the spirochetes – showing that she fundamentally did not wish them harm.  She just needed the bacteria to know how much pain and suffering they were causing her.

She sat with these paintings for a few weeks and then one night she had a dream.  In the dream, it was basically evident that the bacteria spirochetes had decided that they would leave her body or turn themselves in to her immune cells (white blood cells).

She claims that a few weeks later, she was complete symptom free.  I kind of believe her.  [end of story]

Actually, when I read Buhner’s book about how complex a pathogen borrelia burdorferi is, it is mind boggling to think of a way for the body to overcome a bad infection.  The Lyme’s bacteria are exceedingly good at mutate and literally mixing up their surface proteins and even altering their genetic code!  The relationship these bacteria have with ticks is incredible (and a bit scary).  So why not try communicating with them in ways we have never conceived of before?  Either get along with them or continue to fight them – even though these bacteria have millions of years on us – in terms of evolving to adapt in dozens of different hosts!

Thanks for reading yet again,

KM

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I had an interesting experience in a bodywork class recently.  I help to assist with teaching various bodywork classes – Craniosacral Therapy, Working with the Vagus [nerve] system, Zapchen Somatics.  And occasionally, something comes up which I have not considered or heard before.  Usually the topics are subjects or situations I have heard of previously.  I have been taking these classes since 2005, so I have at least 30 classes under my belt as it were.

However, in a recent class, the topic of birth imprints came up, and specifically comparing our birth imprint with our deeper karma.

So the conversation went something like this:

“I have learned that exploring and stepping out on my own, tends to lead to my getting hurt.  I think it is my karma.”  The teacher heard this and pondered it a second.

Then the teacher skillfully and patiently explained how, if we did not get certain needs met, or if we had parents who did not protect us or provide us with good boundaries, then it made sense how this belief could arise.  The teacher went on to skillfully inquire about this person’s relevant history and they determined that certain needs were not met.  And I think this person may have changed their mind about this long-standing (possibly erroneous) belief.  But was this belief this person’s karma?

This is an interesting question to me.  Of course, if you have a birth imprint that is not resolved (or a developmental piece from when you are two years old for instance), then obviously it is your karma to work through that piece.  But I think what the teacher meant is that, the belief that you will get hurt for exploring and stepping out of your comfort zone, it is possible to penetrate to the misunderstanding (or inherited beliefs from your parents) that is fueling this belief and to clear it up, to resolve it.

As children, we have different needs at different phases of our lives.  Generally, there are age-appropriate needs and guidelines – for instance, young teenagers need to feel safe to explore on their own and to start figuring out who and what they are, to challenge their parents’ beliefs and to start differentiating as they make their way toward becoming adults.  But if parents have been overprotective up to this point, this trend might continue or if parents have not taught any boundaries and have not been very protective at all, then the child might have a difficult time knowing how to explore and who is safe to chat with (for instance).  Or the child could act out in a number of ways – the rebel without a cause.

Anyhow, if we hear a client make an interesting statement about getting hurt because we were exploring, this should raise a red flag that some developmental need was not met or it was met inappropriately.  If we have the skills, we can possibly help this person to realize why they might have this belief – maybe they learned it from one or both of their parents.  That might be enough to change this pattern or we can bring in some extra resources or refer them to someone who can help.

No matter what, this is a fascinating topic for me.  When we encounter beliefs that might be erroneous, especially in clients who are wanting to heal and to grow and change for the better, how can we skillfully work with these people?  Who can we refer to for additional assistance?

And does a birth imprint = deeper karma?  I don’t know to be honest.

But I personally believe that we all have the capacity to heal within us.  We all deserve happiness.  And we all make choices everyday which either lead toward happiness or lead toward dissatisfaction.  It is our choice.  However, until we meet a qualified teacher or mentor or coach, we might be ignorant of how to heal ourselves, or that true happiness even exists.

May all beings see through their surface imprints and realize the Buddhanature within!

Thank you for reading as usual.

~km

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