I am wrapping up my trip to Hawaii today – heading to the airport in a couple hours.
As I jot down whatever comes to mind here, I want to say thank you for following along. If you want, you can go back and view previous posts I believe by scrolling down.
I say the Nervous System comes first, because it is only when we feel truly supported, and resourced that we can come out of our shell. When we work on our nervous systems – integrating, repairing, allowing the dust to settle, and healing old wounds (which often requires working with a skillful practitioner), only then can we feel safe enough to move toward spontaneity, joy, ease, humor, and playfulness.
If we feel defended all the time, rigid or braced for the other shoe to drop, then how can we truly be our full selves? We must establish and cultivate the inner feeling of safety first. Then we can explore resources, we can get in touch with our authentic needs and desires, we can start to listen to what our hearts and bodies actually need.
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Having spent two weeks in Hawaii now, the first week partially on my own, and the second week with family, I am more aware than ever that my support systems and comfort zone is in Virginia (my home for the past 30+ years). My friends and safe supportive people are there. And that is vitally important.
I have definitely enjoyed my time in Hawaii. I did some amazing adventures both on the Big Island and here on Oahu – snorkeling, swimming with dolphins, volcano watching, feeling the sand between my toes, hiking, sight seeing, communing with wisdom beings, and more!
It was nice to see family, to have a place to land on Oahu. It is actually good (if not comfortable), for me to check on my rough edges when I am around family. You know the saying – “If you think you are enlightened, go visit your parents.” Thankfully I think more and more families are moving toward health and well-being and this statement may not have the same meaning much longer.
And spending time with my people is just as, if not more important than any of that. Who has my back? If I am in distress, who shows up for me? That is how we can know if someone is really supportive of us. Of course, I have to feel safe enough to show my distress or to ask for help. And then who follows through? Who says they will help and actually shows up?
I am working on courses for my Trauma Informed Astrology project. And I am currently looking at how a settled resourced nervous system is required to do authentic spiritual practice. We must build a solid foundation. If I have serious neuroses – high anxiety, panic issues, big fear, paranoia, etc, do I really think I can authentically meditate? No, probably not. First, I must move to greater stability inside – which means resourcing and repairing the nervous system.
I have done a good job of keeping my nervous system happy here in the Islands. Morning practice has been Dharma or yoga. That feeds me. But being in a safe, loving community keeps those good vibes going – much easier than having to hold resources on my own. Far too many people I think, are straining and struggling to hold themselves up. They don’t realize that all they have to do is ask. Ask for support, ask for consensual caring touch, (I need a hug!), ask for what you need. And if you are not able to get it, maybe you aren’t asking the right people. Or you need to look at your own ability to receive.
May we let go into the knowingness of love and clarity and big spacious compassion. I want to surrender to that.
I wish that everyone finds their people, their tribe, their support team. And then explores the possibility of leaning into that support!
Thank you for reading!
Wish me luck please on my trip back East, to Virginia.