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Venus is currently retrograde (it began to slow down back in late April and then officially went retrograde (Rx) around May 10th. The point at which it went Rx is 21 degrees of Gemini (aka its shadow). Venus will go direct June 25th of 2020 and that point is 5 degrees Gemini. Then it will take another four – five weeks until Venus crosses its shadow. At this point (in late July), we will be in the clear around Venusian issues.
Venus rules money, luxury items, comfort, what we want / what we desire, sexual needs, sensuality, intimacy and relating in general (particularly romantic relationships). All of these areas could be affected during this time. The primary advice I give clients during Venus Rx is be discerning about how you view potential romantic partners – especially anyone new you meet during this phase! Rose colored glasses are out in full force!
And yes, Venus Rx can strain existing romantic relationships – but often in a good way. We want to be clearer about expressing our needs, we want to be seen and heard in relationship (ideally!) and we want to be able to express and get our sexual needs met. When Venus is Rx, if there has been some sweeping some of these needs under the carpet, beware – those dust bunnies are going to come out!
In particular, for those of us who were born between 1975 and 1982 – when Neptune was around mid to late Sagittarius (opposite the current Rx transit of Venus), this could be an even more trying and deceptive time. For those years, be extra discerning about the rose colored glasses! Get second opinions! Lean into support. If you meet, “the person of my dreams” during this time, introduce them to friends and really ask your friends to tell you what they think – don’t hold back.
For these years, this can also be a time of being deceived around money. Any financial dealings should be scrutinized and possibly slept on for a day and night. If something feels fishy or like you need to rush to get it done, be careful. This will also be true about purchasing luxury items – be discerning or else in a couple months you will regret the massive credit card bill of that expensive (substitute your luxury item of choice) infrared sauna you purchased!
What are some potential ways of ameliorating Venus retrograde confusion / delusion? 1) Being in the body – doing techniques / somatic work to be in your body; 2) once we have done some work to be in our bodies, then meditation will be efficacious and very beneficial; 3) get second / third opinions – lean into support!; 4) know yourself
- Being in our bodies – according to research in the last 20 years, the Vagus nerve, which is basically the primary mediator of the autonomic nervous system, is 80% afferent (and only 20% efferent). This means that 80% of information traveling through the Vagus nerve is going from the body to the brain. Why is this important? Because this means we have 4 lanes of traffic, a virtual superhighway of information coming from the body going to the brain, and only one lane of traffic from the brain down. Therefore, if we try to figure everything out through the brain only (top-down processing), we are vastly limiting our resources. When we work with an appropriate professional to do somatic processing type work – to clear up the obstacles to being in our bodies – then we start to gain access to that superhighway of information. The term “I had a gut feeling about it” has so much more meaning than most people know! See my recent post about leading a Gentle Somatics class or click here for more info: https://www.jaydemaio.com/qigong
- Only when we have cleared up some of the inner obstacles to nervous system regulation (one way of accomplishing this is by doing embodiment / somatic exercises especially with a practitioner who is able to self-regulate themselves) are we able to meditate with ease. Unfortunately, the deep dorsal vagal response of freeze / shut down / collapse is pervasive in our society – whether due to early developmental stresses (birth trauma, neglect, abuse, etc) or due to chronic unresolved lighter stress. Therefore, if I am stuck in a pattern of freeze / dissociation / collapse and I go to meditate, my body-mind is going to swiftly bring me back to show me that pattern. It is my intention to move toward well-being AND when I try to meditate, all that happens is I zone out, check out, start day dreaming, feel my anxiety etc. If this is happening, we could use more support for our nervous systems.
- Lean into support! Whether we talk with a skillful therapist, or have a circle of close friends or family members, get second and third opinions! If something seems too good to be true, have a healthy dose of skepticism. If someone seems too good to be true – Venus is retrograde, look out! So lean into support, phone a friend, chat with that buddy who you haven’t spoken with in months, etc.
- Know Ourselves. I could write about this for thousands of words… and it is a gradual process. The more “work” we do on ourselves, the more we will learn about our habitual tendencies, about how our nervous system’s react to different situations, about patterns that we seem to recapitulate (do over and over again), etc. Whether we use the Enneagram, or Astrology, or working with a good system like a Course in Miracles, or a skillful counselor, etc, the more we understand ourselves, the more consciousness we bring to our subconscious patterns stemming from early stuff, the more we will heal, repair and release old out-dated material. So start getting to know yourself better today! Even simply finding a self-help book that resonates with you and reading 5-10 pages a day is a great start!
May all beings have clear heads, be discerning during this time, still figure out ways to get their relationship needs met and know happiness and contentment!
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